Nope! We're Not Monogamous
Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, tantra and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.
Nope! We're Not Monogamous
Why You Keep Comparing Yourself to Your Metamour (And How to Stop), Ep. 107
Struggling with comparison in your non-monogamous relationship?
Whether it’s jealousy, insecurity, or spiraling thoughts when your partner mentions someone new—you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.
In this episode, we explore why comparison shows up in polyamory and non-monogamy, how it impacts your nervous system, and what you can do to stop the spiral and build emotional safety.
You’ll learn:
- Why comparison hits hard in non-monogamy (even when you “know better”)
- How internalized patriarchy and survival instincts fuel insecurity
- Grounding tools to manage triggers in real-time
- Daily practices to rebuild self-trust and self-worth
- How to reframe your value beyond your partner’s other connections
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